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The Sparrow

This beautiful vid needs no intro.

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Many years ago in my first book, Compulsion, I wrote about achieving an Anamorphic view as you experience your lessons in this life...a view from a bird's eye...where it's quiet...calm...grand. We all know that 'our' existence is about so much more than we can ever control: patience...timing...acceptance...forgiveness...release...and unconditional love; these are the rungs that allow us transcendence into usefulness and joy. As painful as that process may be, the endeavor is infinitely altruistic.

Our responsibility is to allow our people to see and experience this cycle firsthand.

The words fall away. The residue of emotion and connection will remain. 

Head down, and drive forward.

Love your people.

The Most PERFECT discussion on Happiness.

In Mr. #FredLuskin 's video, he shares MANY wonderful ideas on how to achieve happiness. One of the greatest points is at the 26:30 point. Check it out!

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Pain and Injustice

Life is FULL of obstacles and learning experiences. Your reaction to those events shapes your character. Stay above the clouds, the pain, and the injustice.

“The sun always shines above the clouds.” ― Paul F. Davis

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Please, when you have a moment, read this article in its entirety. I guarantee (yes, guarantee) it will change your life for the better.

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Happiness is.......

I came across this succinct & truthful quote on Happiness while checking out some Brian Tracy material.

"The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life."

I couldn't agree more. Building value in the self begins at that point where we take full responsibility for every thought, action, and emotion in our lives.

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Bitter?! You Think I'm Bitter??!!

"Bitterness is like drinking poison and hoping that it will hurt someone else." - Brian Hasse

Time-Outs are Hurting Your Child

Anytime a person shares helpful hints as to how I 'might' want to raise my son, I find myself pinning my ears back. It strikes the ego a bit, as if to say I have no idea what I'm doing. But, every once in a while, there are sound ideas that have the potential to help. Avoid that initial response here. Read the article. And please comment with your ideas.

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I was eating ice cream...when I started to cry

My wife, son and I had finished dinner. I bundled the family up on the couch amongst blankets and pillows, and put the DVD into the player. We were about to watch Wayne Dyer's film, The Shift. As the intro music started playing, I went to the kitchen to get a little ice cream to satiate my sweet tooth.

I came back out to the living room and sat on the floor, in front of the couch, as I usually do. The music played on as I chowed a few spoonfuls of ice cream. I turned and looked up at my beautiful little family just BEING, both of them smiling at one another, and then at me. I smiled back. No one said anything. I put down the ice cream and put my left hand on my wife's leg, and brushed my boy's hair from his eyes with my right. Time ceased to exist, and all worry, fear and uncertainty was gone. I was so quiet, on the inside. It was one of those moments when we realize that THIS is life, THIS is the thing that we search our whole lives for, THIS is what we keep at arm's length while trying to satiate the ego.

A couple drops of warm water welled up in my eyes (being a man, I know they couldn't possibly have been tears, right fellas? LOL.) I smiled and caressed my beautiful babies, imbibing the Light of Source.

I have no idea how many times that intro music played before I actually hit the play button. All I know is that I am so incredibly grateful to have people in my life who love me. I have never before understood, felt, or experienced the love I have for my baby boy, and the pure potential he represents.

As my life goes on, The Shift has been occurring within me. I've moved from achievement to purpose. And I'm here to tell you that it's everything you've been searching for. Love your people.

There is Peace for You

The evolution of a human is a profound endeavor. And I can tell you first hand, that everything you seek resides in the process of becoming a Whole individual. There is peace for all of us. But we have to be willing to work for it.

A Life of Purpose

My name is Dr. Mark Svetcos. I am a professional speaker, a published author, and a dedicated family man. I lead a rich, purpose-driven life, but it wasn’t always so. When I was young, I did a lot of dumb things, the biggest of which led to the complete erosion of everything I’d ever worked to create.

I was a millionaire by the age of 34, but I was dysfunctional in almost every other part of life. I lacked purpose. But my biggest downfall was not living a coherent lifestyle. My principles did not perfuse into my actions. I knew myself to be a good person. But after hours, I was a wreck. I knew not how to honor and take care of myself. And this led to a state of self-sabotage.

When all my material items melted from my grasp, I was left with the opportunity to create a powerful, purpose-driven life, a life of example for my children-to-be. And that I’ve done. We all have obstacles to overcome. Know that these obstacles are the means to our evolution. It is my life-long mission to provide you with the tools and support to transcend your obstacles.

My expertise is in balancing the lives of busy professionals. I will help you to make your life rich in every way, to become the truest representation of you. Stop treading water. Let's hit the reset button. Let's get to work.

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Try This Mantra On For Size

"For my family, I am strong of body, mind and spirit. Everything I think and do reinforces this commitment to my family."

I Lost A Freakin' Diamond!!!

When I gladly and happily accepted this wedding ring from my wife four years ago, it was a gleaming beauty. The three little diamonds were perfectly understated, the platinum shiny and smooth. Life had a massive up-side. We were building, creating, accumulating.

Since then, our life together has taken many unexpected turns. There have been dreams realized, and there have been dreams crushed. Although we are the happiest and most purpose-driven we've ever been, it looks nothing like we ever thought it would. The money has come and gone. The places we've spent time have changed. The people in our lives are different than they used to be. We've become kings at adaptation. Life is slower. Financially, we're not worth as much as we once were. But life is now like a huge locomotive building steam. Each purposeful step is leading in a defined direction, toward self-reliance, creativity, refined purpose, health. Life has more meaning.

As I reach my right hand over to inspect and remove my little band, I notice how weathered my hands have become. I haven't been able to feel the vitality leaving my body, but it's happened, somewhere along the line. My skin is more coarse than it once was. The small scars of labor and love are numerous now, each with its own story and emotion.

I take off my little ring and notice how she's a little tarnished, a little beaten, a little scratched. Long ago, the middle diamond fell out and I couldn't find it. It was around the same time we lost a little one, and I won't replace it. There is a deep scratch on one side from the time I punched a steel door in fear, frustration and anger. That was around the same time I lost everything I'd worked my whole life to gain, and I won't buff it out. And then, as I inspect the inside surface with my finger, I feel the abbrased surface under my fingerprint. I recall the engravings that my wife so lovingly placed within it forever, "...with love and gratitude..." I can't read the small writing anymore. But I know it's there, as I am for she and our family.

I gently rub the surface one last time and slowly put the ring back on my finger. I rub my own hand, feel the callouses, try to massage the stiffness away.

No, life doesn't look like I thought it would. And I wouldn't change it for anything. Love your people.

The Greatest Ten Minutes of My Life

I stood above the crib and watched my 9-month old boy as he kicked his little legs, fighting sleepy time with everything he had. That little dude melts my heart, especially when he tries my patience. In fact, I absolutely love it when he does.

Here's why: It strengthens my resolve to be a better father, and a better human.

When he refuses to sleep, or when he dumps his blueberries onto the floor, or when he poops at the worst possible moment, I can choose to react to the situation emotionally/egoically, or I can choose to act in a way that provides a good example for him. He is there watching every move I make. And he's learning life-long habits from me. It's within micro-moments such as these that character is built, mine, and his.

My wife and I made a pact before we were ever pregnant. We committed to our children that we would do everything in our power to limit the amount of emotional baggage that we might bestow upon them. We are, of course, human. We WILL make mistakes, and plenty of them. But it's our mission to focus our attention on those micro-moments, on those times when we're in a hurry to be somewhere, or when we're tired, or when we have so much more work to do before we go to bed. Taking the time to simply BE with the little guy, engaged, focused, and gracious for his existence IS my life.

When I look at him, tightly squeezing my arm toward his little chest right before he lets his eye lids fall, HE is the only thing that matters. HE is the reason I've gone through my life's trials and tribulations, and learned from them. It is attention to these exact micro-moments, or lack thereof, that make up a life.

I challenge you to pay attention to your reactions today. They will reveal a pattern, and are a direct reflection of your character.

One Easy Step to Staying Focused

I'm a big fan of using mental tools to help stay focused and intent throughout my day. A couple months ago, I found a Happy Birthday card that my father sent to me years ago. The poem is short, but has tremendous impact for me. Now I keep it next to me at my desk. And when I have a 'sluggish' moment, I read it aloud to myself. Here it is...

"I remember the day you were born. What a mystery you were...the little guy sleeping in my arms, smiling through his dreams. Those dreams have grown, and so have you. And now the whole idea that my little man has a big, beautiful life of his own fills me with hope and pride. Keep dreaming, Son. Keep believing. Keep doing. And always keep being the one and only amazing you."

I now have a new son of my own, and the power of this note has grown exponentially. It helps me to drive forward respectfully and responsibly. It inspires me to produce instead of consume. And it consistently cultivates a healthy dose of perspective.

Could I live and thrive without such tools? Of course, I could. But there's nothing wrong with using them to motivate, inspire and to keep you on purpose.

Maybe you have a physical item, a small gift, a letter, a coin, something someone has given to you that has meaning, that makes you feel GOOD. Take it out of the drawer and place it near your desk or in your pocket. Refer to it often, and then get back to work.

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Why do we need The 7 Pillars of Balance?

All dysfunctional behavior and outcomes are due to imbalance. Every single disease process is caused by imbalance in any combination of systems and agents. Lack of abundance in one’s life is due to an imbalance in functional thought and action. Uncertainty, or too much certainty, in spirituality imbalances acceptance and creates a state of rigidity that pervades through all aspects of life. Imbalance in relationships manifests in codependent behavior, anxiety and expectation.

As humans, the natural state of being tends to be imbalance. And in no other place is that more evident than in America. Not only do we go to extremes in many dysfunctional ways, we’re not taught how to push the reset button. And that continues the process, and allows it to become a way of being. The only way out is to consciously focus on the fundamentals of life, starting with the creation of your very own Codes of Life. You can read more and start the process immediately by downloading the FREE Universal Covenant of Responsibility® HERE. When you provide your email, the download will follow on the next page. And you will also be the newest member of The Responsibility Movement®. Be sure to follow the instructions provided in the download. And share it with your friends and family as well. It literally takes conscious thought and action to live in a state of balance. And that’s what you will be creating.

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7 Pillars of Balance - Intro to Love & Relationships

In the deepest recesses of our hearts, in the spaces we try to hide from others, we ALL desire & require love, affection & connection with other humans. Every last one of us craves a healthy union with others.

Relationships offer the greatest opportunity for self-evolution. They also offer us an infinite number of possibilities and opportunities for awareness and change. They reveal all extremes of human behavior, including projection of the ego. Relationships challenge us to become better, to balance all areas of life, to become a leader.

A healthy relationship, whether a friendship or a love interest, must be defined in terms of mutual respect. There is a balance of give and take. A healthy independence and a deep understanding of self is key to a mutually beneficial relationship. Codependency, fear & over emoting are red flags that lead to resentment and pain.

Long-lasting and successful relationships maintain unconditional love, patience and acceptance along a two-way path. There is never room for control, guilt or judgment. There are wonderful opportunities for your own evolution in each relationship you share.  

The articles, videos & podcasts in the Love & Relationships section of The 7 Pillars of Balance will help you to explore this evolution, and will provide proactive tips and techniques to help you to improve and select supportive, loving relationships in your life.

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7 Pillars of Balance - Intro to Spirituality

Spirituality is the common thread that weaves itself throughout religion and life. It is the basis of everything. It's the vehicle by which we transcend from self to soul. where we connect to our God, soul and self. And at its most fundamental level, spirituality is the tie that binds us to The Infinite. It's where we find truth, answers, creativity & invention.

It is the goal of The Responsibility Movement, and of myself, to create an atmosphere in America that supports the proliferation of individual spirituality. It is vital to our own personal evolution that each of us follows our own spiritual path, because the lessons of one person are not necessarily the lessons of another. And let us not forget that there are many pathways along the road to spirituality.

And what does it mean to be spiritual? For some it means adhering to the principles and procedures of a particular religion. And for others, it is honoring Mother Earth, and for others still, it is honoring the god within. To some degree, all are appropriate at various times throughout life. And none are wrong, as long as they're not exclusionary or harmful in any way to anyone.

I like to think of things in terms of their most fundament parts. I ask myself the question, "What is it that all spiritually-based practices share?" When you peel away the humanistic, ego-driven, parts of all religion, the dogma, separatism, rigidity, control, guilt, financial interest, etc., you're left with a core system of personal evolution. That is our common thread. We all desire acceptance. And when we give acceptance, without judgment, we put into action a cascade of events that ultimately results in others raising themselves up to a more inspired level. By accepting, you empower others to be better. That is the nature of spirituality.

I support everyone who seeks spiritual practices that help to create and maintain the most responsible & life-enriching environment possible. Such practices embrace differentiation & inspire thought. They are never exclusionary, or require ritual indoctrination. Spirituality is as free as thought, and every being is entitled to it at every moment of life.

The articles and podcasts in the Spirituality section of this blog will include writings, thoughts and ideas to help you along your path to maintaining a daily spiritual practice.

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